does anyone else want to hide in a hole when people bring up diapers.
it's becoming and explosive topic.
friendships could be lost over it because of the way some cloth people go about it.
i didn't speak to someone for a month and a half after they tried to make me buy their cloth diapers.
diapers that had been through two children and were stained and tattered.
sitting with my new born and my 5 year old strung out on coffee and no sleep being lectured on diapers so that she could make a buck is not the way i like to spend an afternoon. but i had to one time.
someone trying to use a friendship to make a buck and tacking on their moral earth superiority on top of it is a really good way to make me not like you.
if a person is that committed they should be giving them to me not charging premium prices for something the goodwill wouldn't accept.
(same person tried to make me buy baby boy clothes that were so faded and pilled they looked liked they had been through a war... i'm beginning to think that michigan produces the stingiest people alive but since it's the new year i'll forgive her, three months on my crap list is long enough for a minor offense.... hm, let's be frank, she'll be on a modified list).
maybe i just don't like being lectured because i have nothing against people who use cloth or people who don't but i don't like holier than though hypocrites. i don't make you stop the seventeen absolutely wasteful habits i notice every time i visit your home so what exactly gives you the moral superiority to criticize me??
my current mode of defense is to
just look at them and list all the things i make instead of buy until they shut up and realize that they aren't as superior as they thought they were because my recycling can and trash cans don't fill up nearly as fast as theirs do even with their cloth techniques.
i'm not unwilling to try it but the lecturing has to end.
if someone is truly passionate about the topic they should
a) give theirs used cloth away or at low prices to encourage others to try it.
b) not turn their nose up at used stuff... i offered to lend a baby swing to someone because it's like brand new but they wouldn't take it.... but i saw one on their registry. i ask you, how is buying a new swing and increasing the number of things that eventually get thrown away not as big of a recycling dilemma??? or the seventeen things that are made of plastic and are the most useless baby items ever created?
i could really add that to my moral superiority if i wanted to....my heat never goes above 65 and 80% of the things in my life are hand-me-downs.... el guapo sleeps every night in a used pack n play and he's perfectly happy. the only new furniture we have is our couches and all the kids new clothes are gifts and then i can throw in the homemade stuff..... like shampoo. homemade shampoo is a nice ace to have.
here is the deal; i care as much about your diaper choices about as much as you care that i use baking soda and vinegar in my hair.
unfortunately i never say these things. i'm trying to be a much more controlled person. so i think these things and put people on the list.
i have to answer to God for my actions not the actions of hypocritical people with no social graces ;)
of course not everyone falls into this category; just about half of the cloth people i know. the other half are perfectly nice and are no where near my 'i'm going to avoid contact with you so i don't say something rude' list.
like the girl who i witnessed talk about her cloth diaper passions to a group of people who throw their recycling away out of spite for the municipality.
there was lots of giggling in my head but since she wasn't making me crossover i'm not going to hold anything against her.
go for it girl,
but i'm not going to buy them as gifts for you because if you stop i'm out $50 on your gift that you're not using.
and leave me alone if you're trying to sell something.
the end.
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